Now I know I have only been in Sweden a couple days (and will hopefully return permanently) but from reading various blogs and talking to Swedish girls, the dating system here is screwed up and really confusing. First, I have to admit the American system is not good. NOTICE MARCH 20th, 2010: This post is now CLOSED for comments. But don’t fret, there is a NEW POST to make comments. So how do people approach one another when they go out?If you want to meet someone, you’d better make your way to the dance floor. The Observations and Advice from fellow Swedish women: – Women have to make the moves to make things happen – Text, text, text message…just don’t call – Go out on a date and really have no idea where you stand – Meet someone and have no idea where you stand after chatting for a few hours – Learn that they do seem to keep their feelings bottled up. – Ask the man for his number because he’s not asking you – “Swedish men are inconsiderate” i.e. the train, the queue, the store – People don’t really smile and flirt with the eyes.
Many people see this as too forward and will get defensive if they are approached in this way.
One of the most common places to find a partner is at a nightclub (or a mutual friend’s party), which may seem pretty obvious.
However, the way to meet someone there is more subtle.
My international friends from university asked me today to explain how dating works in Sweden.
Apparently they have trouble getting into the rules of the Swedish dating game.