Dating as a queer person is always a little bit tough–and dating as a bisexual is hard.But with putting actual, focused effort into the work, I’m overcoming those barriers and breaking through.Over the past few years, more and more Africans are turning to their mobile phones for services.These stretch from banking services to agricultural advice and, now, dating.This is our paradox: that we must perpetuate some of our myths in order to eventually disperse them.
The uptake of apps across the continent has been surprisingly high, in Kenya 99% of internet access is from a mobile device, 61% of views on BBC’s mobile site are from Nigeria and in South Africa 84% of mobile users have downloaded a mobile app.
Bisexual characters are appearing more and more often in popular texts.
But bisexual women remain an object of interest and fetish, and a lot of that image has leaked down into our dating activities.
I allow myself to remain temporarily closeted, forcing myself to play at being straight or gay in order to get my foot in the door.
For bisexual women working to overcome the patriarchal myths that say we’re “really” just straight women playing at being queer, we frequently have to hide our true selves in order to meet people we actually want to.