On the other hand, you should not be asking permission from your child to date someone. Putting your child in the role of parental decision maker is not healthy for either of you.When it comes to dating after divorce, parents are in the driver's seat.But, we humans are instinctively drawn to partnering up.So chances are very good that sooner or later you (along with nearly every other divorced parent) will be dipping your toe into the waters of dating after divorce.Take things slowly and give everyone the time they need to adjust to this new world of dating after divorce.How long after my divorce should I wait before I begin dating?
This is obviously a very personal decision with no one right answer.If you learn that your new partner is doing any of the following, check it out.Children deserve to be comfortable and safe in their own home.Just as you like to spend time with your special friends, I also want some time to be with my friends."With pre-teens and young teens (11-14) you can broach the topic of dating after the divorce. I'm wondering how you feel about me starting to date." Note: This does not mean that you are asking your child's permission to date. You are simply initiating discussion that is likely to be ongoing.This is a good time to reassure your child that even though you are beginning to go out on dates, you will still always reserve time for just the two of you.