The idea that sexual liberation is fundamental to female agency dominates progressive media.
True feminists, I believed, not only wanted but also thrived on emotionless, non-committal sexual engagements.
Almost immediately, I buried this dream deep within my new plastic dorm drawers.
From dance floors to bedrooms, everyone was hooking up—myself included.
I wished that I could be like the guys, who seemed not to care at all.
Far more frequent, however, were pseudo-relationships, the mutant children of meaningless sex and loving partnerships.
Two students consistently hook up with one another—and typically, only each other—for weeks, months, even I soon came to believe that real relationships were impossible at Midd. It wasn’t just the social pressure that drove me to buy into the commitment-free hookup lifestyle, but my own identity as a feminist.
Hanna Rosin epitomizes this perspective in her article for The Atlantic, “Boys on the Side”: “To put it crudely, feminist progress right now largely depends on the existence of a hookup culture.
And to a surprising degree, it is women—not men—who are perpetuating the culture, especially in school, cannily manipulating it to make space for their success, always keeping their own ends in mind.