If the groom cannot afford to bear the expenses, he agrees to live with his future father in law and serve him till the debt is paid.
The bride and the groom do not meet during this period, but they can exchange gifts through a family member or friend.
In conservative Afghan families, the female and male guests are separated and entertained in exclusive areas.
Lavish dinner is provided and after dinner, the bride and groom walk up the aisle as they are showered with sweets and flowers and a special song is played known as the Asta Burrow meaning “go slow”.
Children wearing new traditional clothes are pressed into service and they carry the baskets decorated with flowers and candles in a procession that is made festive with appropriate music.
On arrival of the procession, refreshments are served by the bride’s family and the rituals begin.
The groom is then accepted by the father of the bride as “his servant”.
This is a family event in which close family and friends participate.It generally consists of livestock, property and money.The groom and his family must finance the bride money for purchasing her jewelry, clothes and other trousseau.The ceremonies are conducted between 6 p.m and 2 a.m.The ceremony begins with the bride and the groom exchanging vows in the presence of the mullah or priest.