Then there is the idea that her boss might see, or her friends, or her neighbors, or the guy at the gas station.
The whole world sees her as desperate enough to resort to online dating.
After all, pretty girls are hit on all the time in real life. The only reason is because she has kids, or perhaps because she’s unattractive, or maybe she has some personal baggage.
I’d say about 90% of the women on the dating websites I visit have kids. But dealing with the ex-husband who might be really possessive can be scary. I spent more time with the kid than I ever did with her. I didn’t have the time to learn about her, because I was too busy taking care of the kid. But when 90% of the girls online have kids, you’re basically relegating yourself to ONLY girls with kids.
She might have been reading, or thinking, or dreaming, and then you had the guts and bravery to approach her and start a conversation. Dating websites try to make up for this by including lots of personality tests.
But all of these tests are flawed, because different things matter to different people.
There IS a chance that someone might stalk her, or threaten her, or send her inappropriate pictures. And if she is pretty, her inbox will be flooded with messages from guys who only want one thing.
Now, I know that it seems cruel to favor girls without kids, but – I’ve dated single mothers before. Also, when a woman has a kid, it’s harder to find any time to learn who the woman is. I played with him, disciplined him, tucked him in at night, and read him stories – the whole thing. So when we finally hit a small bump in the road, the relationship crumbled. And with Christmas around the corner, I’m simply not ready to be a father figure AND Santa Claus.
The girls online who don’t have kids usually have other baggage.
When a man joins a dating website, it’s not really a huge risk.
So today, I’m deleting all of my online dating profiles, and venturing out onto a brave new experiment called, “real life”.